Questions and Answers
Q: In the last year, my fifth grader has become so negative. Nothing is ever right. My child doesnāt seem to like school, the teacher or anything else for that matter. Last week, we did something special togetherājust the two of us. Later, my child said it was āAll right, I guess.ā Iām losing patience. What can I do?
A: You are wise to be concerned. Constant negativity reduces motivation and increases the likelihood of stress, anxiety and depression. Negativity can also impair memory, attention and problem-solving skills.
Here are some steps to take:- Ask about what makes your child feel down, and pay close attention to the answer. If there is one issue that comes up over and over, you may have hit on the problem. Brainstorm ways your child can address the situation.
- Let your child complain, but donāt dwell on the topic. If your child whines about an assignment, listen for a minute or two. Then, redirect your childās focus by saying, āWell, you still need to finish it.ā Say that everyone has responsibilitiesāwhether they like them or not.
- Model the attitude youād like to see. Face disappointments with some positivity. Say things like, āIām bummed I have to work on Saturday, but it will feel great to finish this project!ā
- Realize you arenāt responsible for fixing everything. Empower your child to solve some problems independently.
- Make a medical appointment if your child seems consistently anxious or depressed.
Reprinted with permission from the March 2024 issue of Parents make the difference!Ā® (Elementary School Edition) newsletter. Copyright Ā© 2024 The Parent InstituteĀ®, a division of PaperClip Media, Inc.